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I recently came across a Batman statue and couldn't resist recreating the classic superhero pose. Batman: "We need a plan" Me: "Absolutely. I've got 17 of them" Batman: "Excellent. Which one are we starting?" Me: *Panics in ADHD* It gets a laugh because there's more truth in it than many people realise. One of the biggest misconceptions about ADHD is that people simply don't plan ahead, when in reality, many of the people I work with are excellent at coming up with ideas, res

One thing I've been working on over the last few years is learning Spanish. My wife is Spanish, and her family don't speak English, so learning the language isn't just a hobby. It's important to me that I can communicate with them, even if my conversations are still fairly simple. I wouldn't describe myself as a natural linguist. Learning another language has taken time, patience, and plenty of repetition, but I've also learnt a lot about how an ADHD brain approaches learning

One question I'm often asked is whether being self-employed suits someone with ADHD. Speaking from my own experience, I'd say yes... but with warnings! I genuinely wouldn't want to do anything else. I love meeting new people, delivering talks, coaching my clients, and having the freedom to shape my own working week. As a parent, that flexibility is invaluable and is one of the biggest benefits of running my own business. However, there is another side to self-employment that

When people think about ADHD, they often imagine someone becoming overwhelmed when things go wrong. In reality, many adults with ADHD describe the exact opposite. I've always found that when a genuine crisis happens, I become calm, focused, and surprisingly good at solving the problem in front of me. It's something I've experienced personally and something I've heard from several of my coaching clients over the years. The interesting part is that the same person who can stay

Family holidays are often something we look forward to for months; spending quality time together, exploring new places, and taking a break from work can be a welcome change. However, if you have ADHD, holidays can also bring a unique set of challenges that people don't always see. While everyone else may be looking forward to relaxing, you might already be thinking about remembering passports, booking confirmations, medication, chargers, packing for every possible weather fo

Most of us expect big decisions to feel difficult. Choosing a career, moving house, or deciding whether to accept a new job naturally takes time and thought. What often surprises people with ADHD is that the smallest decisions can sometimes feel just as overwhelming. When Every Choice Competes for Your Attention You sit down to work and immediately wonder which task should come first. You open the fridge and can't decide what to eat. You know you need to make a phone call, bu

Many adults with ADHD tell me they know exactly what they need to do, but if they can't do it properly, they don't do it at all - and not because they don't care, but because often, they've set such a high standard in their own mind that anything less feels pointless. What Does an All or Nothing Mindset Look Like? You decide there's no point going for a brisk walk because you can't fit in a full workout. You leave the housework because you don't have time to clean every room.

Have you ever had an appointment at 3pm and found yourself achieving very little before then? You know there's plenty of time to get things done, yet starting anything feels surprisingly difficult. Instead, you find yourself checking the clock, thinking about the appointment, or worrying you'll lose track of time and miss it altogether. Many adults with ADHD describe this experience, often referring to it as waiting mode. Although waiting mode isn't an official clinical term,

Many people assume that if you enjoy spending time with other people, you'll come home feeling refreshed and energised, but for many adults with ADHD, that isn't always the case. You might have had a lovely afternoon with friends, attended a family gathering, or spent the day in meetings at work, only to get home feeling completely exhausted. Some people even find they need the rest of the evening, or the following day, to recover. That doesn't mean you don't enjoy being arou

One thing many of my clients say is: "I've been busy all day, but I don't feel like I have actually achieved anything" If you've ever ended the day feeling mentally exhausted despite having very little to show for it, you're certainly not alone! The reality is that being busy and being productive are not the same thing, and for many people with ADHD, the difference often comes down to executive functioning rather than motivation or time management. Why ADHD Can Make You Feel

For many people, receiving an ADHD diagnosis feels like crossing the finish line. After months, or sometimes years, of waiting, they finally have an explanation for why everyday life has often felt more challenging than it seemed to be for other people. The diagnosis can bring relief, validation and a sense that things finally make sense - however, what many people are not prepared for is what happens next. Diagnosis Is the Beginning, Not the End An ADHD diagnosis can explain

Many people look forward to warm weather, but if you have ADHD, you may find your symptoms become harder to manage during a heatwave. Feeling more distracted, emotionally reactive or mentally exhausted isn't unusual, and you're certainly not alone. While everyone can struggle in extreme temperatures, the combination of ADHD and heat can make everyday tasks feel much more difficult. Why does heat affect ADHD? When we're too hot, our bodies have to work harder to regulate tempe

I'm looking forward to delivering my Neurodiversity in the Workplace: Beyond the Myths talk at two venues in Littleport this week. Whether you're an employer, manager, colleague, someone who is neurodivergent yourself, or simply interested in learning more, these talks are designed to challenge some of the common misconceptions surrounding neurodiversity and encourage more informed, supportive conversations in the workplace. Awareness of ADHD, autism and dyslexia has grown si

Have you ever felt as though your ADHD has suddenly become worse? It is something I hear surprisingly often, particularly from adults who have managed reasonably well for years. They tell me that the lists, reminders, routines, and ways of working they have always relied on no longer seem to be enough. Naturally, they begin to wonder whether their ADHD is getting worse, but that is not the case. Why ADHD Can Feel Harder at Different Stages of Life ADHD itself does not get wor

Do you ever find yourself replaying conversations in your head long after they have ended? Perhaps you wonder whether you talked too much, interrupted someone, sounded rude in an email, or forgot something important. You might spend time analysing how other people reacted, looking for signs that you said the wrong thing or made a mistake. For many adults with ADHD, this kind of self-monitoring can become a constant background process that follows them throughout the day. What

One of the reasons ADHD can go unnoticed for so long is because not everyone with ADHD looks like they are struggling. Many adults appear organised, successful, reliable, and capable from the outside. They may do well at work, maintain relationships, manage households, raise children, or achieve academically. Because of this, people are often told things like: “You seem fine.” “You’re coping well.” “You can’t be struggling that much.” What people do not always see is what it

Why Do I Keep Asking People to Repeat Themselves? For years, I couldn't understand why I was forever asking people to repeat themselves despite having perfectly normal hearing. I would hear someone speaking, but the words wouldn't always register, particularly if there was background noise. Sometimes my brain seemed to need extra time to catch up with what had been said. Like many people with ADHD, I assumed I just wasn't concentrating properly, but it turns out that hearing

When people talk about receiving an ADHD diagnosis as an adult, the focus is often on relief. Relief that things finally make sense. Relief that there is an explanation for struggles that may have followed them for years. Relief that they are not lazy, disorganised, careless, or lacking willpower. While relief is often part of the experience, it is rarely the whole story. Why an ADHD Diagnosis Can Bring Mixed Emotions For many people, an ADHD diagnosis means looking back at t

Do you have ADHD and find friendships can be tricky to maintain? It can be easy to assume that if you care about someone, you will simply remember to keep in touch, reply to messages, arrange meet ups, and maintain regular contact. Unfortunately, ADHD is not always that straightforward. I often speak to people who genuinely care about their friends but still struggle to reply to messages, forget to respond altogether, lose track of time, or suddenly realise months have passed

ADHD and anxiety are very commonly linked, although many people do not realise how connected the two can become over time. While ADHD is usually associated with attention and focus difficulties, it also affects regulation, organisation, emotional responses, memory, and managing everyday demands. Constantly trying to stay on top of things, avoid mistakes, remember important tasks, and manage overwhelm can place people under a significant amount of ongoing stress. For many adul