One of the reasons ADHD can go unnoticed for so long is because not everyone with ADHD looks like they are struggling. Many adults appear organised, successful, reliable, and capable from the outside. They may do well at work, maintain relationships, manage households, raise children, or achieve academically. Because of this, people are often told things like: “You seem fine.” “You’re coping well.” “You can’t be struggling that much.” What people do not always see is what it

Why Do I Keep Asking People to Repeat Themselves? For years, I couldn't understand why I was forever asking people to repeat themselves despite having perfectly normal hearing. I would hear someone speaking, but the words wouldn't always register, particularly if there was background noise. Sometimes my brain seemed to need extra time to catch up with what had been said. Like many people with ADHD, I assumed I just wasn't concentrating properly, but it turns out that hearing

When people talk about receiving an ADHD diagnosis as an adult, the focus is often on relief. Relief that things finally make sense. Relief that there is an explanation for struggles that may have followed them for years. Relief that they are not lazy, disorganised, careless, or lacking willpower. While relief is often part of the experience, it is rarely the whole story. Why an ADHD Diagnosis Can Bring Mixed Emotions For many people, an ADHD diagnosis means looking back at t

Do you have ADHD and find friendships can be tricky to maintain? It can be easy to assume that if you care about someone, you will simply remember to keep in touch, reply to messages, arrange meet ups, and maintain regular contact. Unfortunately, ADHD is not always that straightforward. I often speak to people who genuinely care about their friends but still struggle to reply to messages, forget to respond altogether, lose track of time, or suddenly realise months have passed

ADHD and anxiety are very commonly linked, although many people do not realise how connected the two can become over time. While ADHD is usually associated with attention and focus difficulties, it also affects regulation, organisation, emotional responses, memory, and managing everyday demands. Constantly trying to stay on top of things, avoid mistakes, remember important tasks, and manage overwhelm can place people under a significant amount of ongoing stress. For many adul

On Friday night I held an ADHD awareness talk at The Yard in Ely, followed by an ADHD social event afterwards, and it turned out to be a fantastic evening from start to finish. The event was completely sold out, and it was great to be speaking in front of such a large group of engaged people. The atmosphere throughout the evening was warm, open, and thoughtful, with people asking insightful questions and sharing their own experiences with me afterwards. Creating Open Conversa

As ADHD coaching becomes more widely known, many people are starting to ask how it differs from general life coaching. While there can sometimes be overlap, ADHD coaching is usually much more focused on understanding how ADHD affects everyday functioning, including things like regulation, overwhelm, time awareness, consistency, emotional responses, and getting started with tasks. For many people with ADHD, the difficulty is not a lack of knowledge or motivation. Often, they a

One of the things many people with ADHD struggle with is tasks that other people often see as small or simple. Replying to messages, opening emails, booking appointments, returning forms, making phone calls, or remembering to send a quick reply can build up surprisingly quickly. Individually, these tasks may not take very long, but when there are lots of them sitting in the background at once, they can start to feel overwhelming and difficult to begin. Because these tasks are

Yesterday I had the pleasure of returning to the wonderful Royal Hospital School in Suffolk to deliver a staff talk on understanding and supporting neurodiversity in the workplace. It felt especially meaningful to be back at a school where I taught for three years a few years ago. The building and surroundings are every bit as beautiful as I remembered, and it was lovely to reconnect with such a warm and welcoming environment. Supporting ADHD and Neurodiversity in the Workpla

A lot of the conversation around ADHD focuses on day to day struggles, things like focus, organisation, or getting started with tasks. While those are important, they are only part of the picture. ADHD can also have a longer term impact across different areas of life, and this is something that is not always talked about as openly. How ADHD can affect long term outcomes Over time, difficulties with consistency, time awareness, and follow through can affect work, finances, rel

I recently held an ADHD awareness talk at the beautiful Gonville Hotel in Cambridge, and it was a really positive experience from start to finish. The hosts made me feel very welcome, which helped create a relaxed atmosphere, and there was a great group of people in attendance. A space for open conversation What I enjoyed most about the talk was how engaged everyone was throughout the session - there were lots of questions, people sharing their own experiences, and conversati

“Life admin” is one of those phrases you hear a lot these days. It is also something people with ADHD find difficult to manage. On the surface, there are everyday 'life admin. tasks. Replying to emails, booking appointments, keeping on top of forms, remembering passwords, managing bills. None of them are particularly complicated on their own, but together they can feel constant and difficult to stay on top of. For many people, it feels like it has become heavier over time. Wh

There are many parts of daily life that look simple from the outside, which is why they are often dismissed or misunderstood, but for someone with ADHD they can take far more effort than people realise. Things like replying to a message, starting a task that has no clear beginning, switching from one activity to another, or remembering to do something at the right time can all feel much harder than they “should”. Why small tasks can feel so difficult It is not usually the tas

From the outside, it can look like you’ve got everything together You’re organised, capable, and people rely on you. You meet deadlines, you get things done, and there’s nothing obvious to suggest anything is wrong. But that’s only part of the picture. What people don’t see behind the scenes What often gets missed is how much it takes to keep things running like that. The mental load of trying to keep track of everything, constantly thinking about what needs to be done next,

One of the hardest parts of ADHD is being seen as someone who doesn’t care. It can look like you’re unreliable, like you don’t follow through, and like things just aren’t important to you. And over time, that perception can stick, both in other people’s minds and sometimes in your own. The reality is often very different. The gap between intention and action Many people with ADHD care deeply about the things they commit to. They mean what they say, they want to show up, follo

There is far more awareness of ADHD now than there was a few years ago, which is a great thing. People are recognising themselves in what they read and hear. They are finding language for experiences they have had for a long time. In many ways, that is a positive step. But alongside that, something else is happening. People are knowing more about ADHD, yet often feeling worse in themselves. When awareness becomes overwhelming Access to information has never been easier. There

A lack of trust in yourself is something that I hear a lot about from people who have ADHD, although it is not always spoken about directly. Not just in big decisions, but in everyday things like remembering what you need to do, following through on plans, or managing your time. Over time, that uncertainty can shape how you see yourself. Why self trust can feel so difficult When things are inconsistent, it is hard to build confidence. You might have days where everything flow

Sleep difficulties are something that come up a lot in ADHD, yet it is often treated as a separate issue rather than part of the bigger picture. Many people find it difficult to wind down at night, even when they are tired. Your body might feel exhausted, but your mind is still active, going over the day or jumping between thoughts. Others find themselves staying up later than intended, getting caught in something and losing track of time. Mornings can then feel just as diffi

You might not have heard the phrase “ADHD friendly lifestyle” directly, but the idea behind it is coming up more in coaching spaces and online ADHD communities. At its core, it is about looking at how your life is set up day to day and asking whether it actually works for you. Why standard systems often do not work Many traditional approaches rely heavily on memory, strict routines, or long to do lists. These are often the very things people with ADHD find hardest to maintain

Shame is something that comes up a lot with ADHD, although it is not always recognised for what it is. It tends to sit in the background and show up in familiar thoughts like “why am I like this” or “I should have sorted this by now”. Over time, those thoughts can start to feel like facts rather than reactions. What an ADHD shame cycle looks like Many people get stuck in a pattern that looks like this. You start with good intentions and a plan. Something gets in the way, whet